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When showing love to our family, we do fun stuff with them, and share ideas and listen to them. Especially when we are busy, it is hard to make sure that others know we love them. Do you ever feel like the flowers you bought for your wife or the brief but kind words you spoke to son did not quite meet some need they had? That something more was needed to connect you? It might be that you are missing the concept of the five love languages. When you are not speaking in a family member’s love language, they do not feel loved as much by you as when you are telling them you love them in a way that is truly meaningful to them.

Words of affirmation. These people need to hear verbally that you love them and care about them. They also want to hear that you like the way the completed a task this morning, are proud of their work in school or their job. Also be sure to tell them when you like the shirt he or she is wearing, or you like their new hair do. Say a positive, uplifting statement to words of affirmation members every day.

Gift people. A person whose love language is gifts loves to be surprised by a gift at any time of the day. They like little presents and big ones. It does not need to be a special occasion: gift people love presents given for no particular reason (except to show your love, of course!) Some gift loving people like fancy wrappings and ribbons, for others, the gift in a plastic bag is just fine.

Quality time people. As time is our most important asset, it only makes sense that we can display our love towards our family by giving them our time. The single most important thing to quality time people is that you listen to them. Simply take the time to listen intently and sincerely when they are speaking. You should also spend time doing activities the other person enjoys: golfing, fishing, shopping, or whatever else is fun to them.

Touch people. People whose love language is touch always want to be hugged when you greet them. Children always want to hold your hand, even when they are getting older, and often like to be held or rocked before bedtime. They appreciate a spouse scratching their back or rubbing their feet.

Acts of service people. If a person’s love language is acts of service, they will want you to mow the grass, help clean up the house, fix the closet door, make lunch for them, or sew on a button. Any small act like this can be done on a daily basis to make sure these people know you love them.

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